Monday, January 30, 2006

You know what I mean...

Yeah the bells rang, they rang hard enough, we thought! After 2 months, I mean after that luxurious trip to the land of Kiwis, reality started kicking in. Well you may relate it to any of those well played scenes by SRK and Rani from “Chalte Chalte” or to the comic strips of “Hum Tum” or you may find philosophical reasons to argue that men and women are from different planets, any ways, is it a thumb rule that men and women speak no same language? It is little dumb (with a B), I thought just to accept defeat that way. Communication, I believe in those esteemed universities is taught to stamp such trivia in its implementation.

“Well guess what? BITE MY…” said Sri frustrated, and he continued “Communication…ye? I told her 4 weeks back about this game!” letting his steam out and gulping his cup of Chai.

A telephone ring I thought could distract and calm him a little, but I guess Sri’s rambling was written in Richa’s horoscope for today. Smiling at her fortune, I answered the phone call and gleefully said “Hello, who is there?” My sad, mouse-trapped expression could be the only normal reaction to my own fortune.

It is Priya on the phone saying something I could not quite understand but I heard a series of questions in no particular order” Who thinks a stupid football game is more important than his wife? Who cares if he gives me a month’s notice? Does my health give me prior notice to fall sick?” She confirms that I was still there on the phone”hear this out…” I had to say with my entire fake-enthusiastic accent “what is it?” Not that my response mattered to Priya, she continued “he had the nerve to say, it is just a headache! just a headache!! Trust me Vamsee, these guys are pigs…” while I continued to hear out Priya, I couldn’t escape to hear what Sri was out pouring to Richa.

“Who needs a 24 hour beck ’n call service for just a head ache?” Without looking at Richa who buried her face by then in her hands showing least interest, Sri continued “She even had the guts to say that I am never attentive to her needs…If I am not, who else is?”

Richa looked back at Sri with a tiresome expression, hoping to be on the fine line between not being rude and not encouraging Sri to ramble more. Sri totally oblivious to such expressions continued “Can you imagine, Richa? All that I asked was few hours of Game time…is it so bad to ask?”

Why is it that when She wants to have a romantic candle light dinner, He wishes to have the TV on as well? Why is it that He has to wait in the car for hours while She gets her nails done? Well, this or many other versions of such arguments you have had or heard of, isn’t there a common dictionary/thesaurus that men and women share? Nah-huh! Not one of the below kinds ;-)


Blogger Anil The Great said...

vamsee :

you have a very nice way of conveying that you have put up a new blog post, by commenting on other's blog. No offence, jst a general observation. So, here I am :)

Its really hard to understand women, and seriously vamsee, except a few teeny tiny exceptions, all women r a source of mystrey for thier mates. Their mates could spend the whole life together with them and still wont know a single word about them.

I am not defending men, I am just stating the point of view of a myself as having dealt with females in different roles.

You sure will beg to differ, and you have to, coz men and women dont have a common dictionary.


Mon Jan 30, 05:25:00 PM  
Blogger Vamsee said...

Anil - ooh that was below the ... :) I defer on your observation. My blog behavior/activity goes in the following sequential order:
Write a Post on Bindas Bay -> Check comments for Previous posts -> Visit commenter's blogs -> Leave comments on their blogs, if i find something interesting!
No other intentions...phhrrrr!:)

with your men's point of view: Agreed and the feeling is mutual!:)

Mon Jan 30, 08:17:00 PM  
Blogger Anil The Great said...

vamsee :

as i said before in this post, its not easy to understand and this is an example of the same :))


Mon Jan 30, 09:48:00 PM  
Blogger Arz000n said...

Bottom line of the conversation:

Men are from MARS and Wimmen from VENUS ;)

Thanks for dropping by ma space....lemme read few of your articles from archives :D

Mon Jan 30, 09:55:00 PM  
Blogger Obi Wan said...

Pls don't get me started on the men-women issue, you just might end up having a comment which is much much longer than the original post :-) I guess this is just another one of nature's vagaries that we have to live with: tsunamis strike, volcanos erupt, droughts ravage... and men and women can't speak a common language!

Mon Jan 30, 11:32:00 PM  
Anonymous Shyam said...

Yet another interesting post..Where do you get your topics from? :)

We absolutely know what you mean here..Bells havent yet rung for me but I am half way through both the bells and the classic communication issues..But Vamsee, I find that these un-familiarities or issues are what spices up a relationship...Now do you see what I mean ;)


Mon Jan 30, 11:56:00 PM  
Blogger Dalicia said...

it sure makes life MUCH more INTERESTING. not that i understand MEN they say. relationship is WORK.

ppl. should snap out of this fairytale fantasy.

Tue Jan 31, 12:46:00 AM  
Blogger Known Stranger said...

wow.. that is amazing and mind blowing post. Just got taken away in the swril of beautiful narration. Love it.

Hmm regarding your post comment. Ya.. i love to express but every time i feel i am at loss of finding the right way to express.

Some time experience need not be required, if one can associate with the others pain.

Do you know what vaishnav means ? it measn - the one who understands other pain. I think i am named appropriate or not sure if i understand since i am named so.

Tue Jan 31, 01:30:00 AM  
Blogger Hiren said...

Haven't you heard-Men are from Mars, women are from...

Tue Jan 31, 03:19:00 AM  
Blogger My Ramblings... said...

LOL! You poor thing got stuck in between huh?
Well it happens. Truly, we really need a dictionary.

My Solution: Just dont think or try to rationalize their behaviour...bottom line they are just born weird. ;)

Tue Jan 31, 03:30:00 AM  
Blogger :: The Protector :: said...

you poor guy stuck between them....


Tue Jan 31, 03:49:00 AM  
Blogger Vanathi said...

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus...

Tue Jan 31, 04:21:00 AM  
Blogger Ajit Chouhan said...

If men are from mars and women from venus why does earth needs to suffer ???????????any clue...

Tue Jan 31, 04:33:00 AM  
Blogger vaik said...

Well there is a second book for "men are from Mars..."
"Why men don't listen and women can't read maps".
It is beautifully explained scientifically and practically too that why men and women are different.
Basically the authors say that in primitive days of mankind man was the "bread-winner" and women was the "home-maker" and they say it is in the genes and it continues till today even in the modern world.

well I don't want to write a comment as big as the posting itself :)

Tue Jan 31, 08:01:00 AM  
Blogger PuNeEt said...

hey thanks for dropping by my blog...

isn’t there a common dictionary/thesaurus that men and women share?
LOLz... I dun think so...
the only time wen they agree is during the honeymoon period ;-)
that too becoz they hve better intersts thn to talk ;-)

take care

Tue Jan 31, 08:03:00 AM  
Blogger Vamsee said...

ATG - I guess so..hehe

Arz00n - Look forward for your comments on other posts :)

Obi Wan - So true!:)

Shyam - Thanks:) I totally see your point, it is just when these spices increase in quantity, we tend to get hiccups in relationships, and now that's what I was wondering if you know what I mean..;) Congratulations, let us all know when the bells ring for you:)

Elaine - So true that relationship is WORK!

Known Stranger - Thanks:) Good to know more about Vaishnav :)

Hiren, Vanathi - Yes, I did and thus I said " may find philosophical reasons to argue that men and women are from different planets" :)

My Ramblings – or is it just that they want us to think they are weird? Innumerous Everybody Loves Ray episodes :)

Vishnu - I AM A GIRL and no guy got stuck!!!!! GRRRR :)

Ajit - Very Good Question! let me brew more on that but for now I would assume as Earth keeps rotating and revolving and due to Earth's magnetic field it may have adapted the effects of Mars and Venus:)

Vaik - Times are changing though...and we appreciate long posts:)

Puneet - Ek-chaktly! that's why I said "...I mean after that luxurious trip to the land of Kiwis, reality started kicking in."

Tue Jan 31, 02:29:00 PM  
Blogger Vamsee said...

If you haven't observed already: Alive'n Confused, Anil, Ash, Elaine, Anurag, Ajit, My Ramblings, Sudarshan, Vishnu, and Rashmi hereafter share the limelight of Bindas Bay 'Junta'.

Tue Jan 31, 02:33:00 PM  
Blogger Nishu said...

haha..!! Genders are genetically engineered to be different and hence a sort of incompatibility in natures (^_^) No one can help!

Tue Jan 31, 08:58:00 PM  
Blogger alive_n_confused said...

women and men are two VERY DIFFERENT species!
Men prefer soccer, women prefer candle light dinner!

Tue Jan 31, 09:15:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with nishu's comment here...:)

Tue Jan 31, 09:26:00 PM  
Blogger Dalicia said...

hi vamsee, i enjoy reading your blog that's why i also linked you. i think your blog is REAL WORLD material. :)

i'm glad to share the junta limelight :D

Tue Jan 31, 11:32:00 PM  
Blogger Shikha said...

Hmmm...seems men are wired in such a way that there are only a few wires between the left and right halves of their brains whereas women have mannny wires..err..i read something like this somewhere

Wed Feb 01, 01:23:00 AM  
Blogger :: The Protector :: said...

>>Vishnu - I AM A GIRL and no guy got stuck!!!!! GRRRR :)

Oops!...afterall am a human... know..

honored being junta member :) thanks Vamsee!


Wed Feb 01, 05:37:00 AM  
Blogger Jackal said...

n the twain shall never meet...noo i am sure there are couples who et along too.....if u care enuf...u can bend backwards.......

Wed Feb 01, 11:51:00 AM  
Blogger Vamsee said...

Nishu - I like the way you put it:)

Alive 'n Confused - With the majority agreeing, I smile in agreement too :)

South Paw - me too:)

Elaine - Thanks hon! honored to entertain:)

Shikha - hehe good one! it always works when you tag it with '..i read it somewhere' (Shhhh)

Vishnu - Bindas Bay warmly welcomes you home!:)

Jackal - "if u care enuf...u can bend backwards.."
Now that's a very good point, though the only practical hiccup i see in it is how much would one 'care' to let go of their ego and move towards selflessness at times of heated sniffs.

Wed Feb 01, 12:38:00 PM  
Anonymous Srinath said...

Wohoo..One more interestic topic naratted with a fresh sense of subtle humor around 'universally' relatable characters!!! Kudos, Vamsee..I like it:)

intentionally avoiding to comment on the topic [My wife reads this blog too:( ]

Wed Feb 01, 12:58:00 PM  
Blogger Nanyaar? said...

ha ha quiet interesting. i think the difference between men and womens makes the big deal out of them.... and do we try to understand each other.. not actually!!

Wed Feb 01, 08:46:00 PM  
Blogger Ajay said...

hehe interesting .....

Thu Feb 02, 01:56:00 AM  
Blogger Vidya said...

Nice post !! Here are my 2 cents on this issue:

Communication is both verbal and non-verbal. Most of the time we listen to the verbal communication and think we have got all of the essence ( men & women alike ! ) But it is the non-verbal aspect that we need to watch out for.

Women communicate mainly non-verbal, despite the fact we talk more than men !! :D Men need to watch out for that. When a woman says " It is fine" , it may not necessarily be fine. All she probably needs is a listener. So why not just listen ? There is a good chance that after venting, the woman is going to arrive at a conclusion on the subject at hand. May be all she needed was a good listener. But men tend to look upon themselves as problem solvers. You are great that, no doubt at it, but you need to listen too !!

Likewise , women also think of themselves as caregivers. Why be that all the time with a man ? Women feel need to be nurtured or listened to in times of perplexity. Men don't. They like to be left alone !! So why not leave them alone ?

If they care for you enough, they are always going to come to you !!

Sorry, did not mean for the comment to turn out to be a post in itself !


Fri Feb 03, 07:38:00 AM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

Wooo hooooo .....

thanx for stopping by :)

Well, if women could be understood , men would get bored of them pretty soon ... aint it ?

This was a nice article ... and the template is good , and blog pleasing ...

See u !

Sun Feb 05, 08:58:00 PM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

and men cant really read in b/w the lines ... can they ???!!!!

Sun Feb 05, 08:59:00 PM  
Blogger Obi Wan said...

Thanks for including me in the Bindas Bay 'junta'. Guess i'll have to reciprocate now :-)

Mon Feb 06, 05:06:00 AM  
Blogger PuNeEt said...


now its time for new post :-))
and new equations ;-)


Mon Feb 06, 07:15:00 AM  
Blogger Vamsee said...

Srinath - hehe, you seem to be an experienced player ;)

Nanyaar? - yes, I guess not and I wonder why:(

Vidya - totally agreed and God knows why...appreciate your long comment:)

Deepa - :) well said, i cannot agree more with you:)

Obi Wan - nope! you dont 'have' to:)

Puneet - Sir-jhi, nayaa post haajir hai:)

Mon Feb 06, 06:41:00 PM  
Anonymous nicole said...

vidia said: Likewise , women also think of themselves as caregivers. Why be that all the time with a man ? Women feel need to be nurtured or listened to in times of perplexity. Men don't. They like to be left alone !! So why not leave them alone ?

This is where "best friends" and "girl friends" come in. When I'm upset about something and I know that being around my husband will only make it worse (or i know that he won't "understand" or "nurture" me the way i want), I can just go to my best friend who always knows how to react to my bad moods or crying spells. That's what friends are for. It's much healthier than developing a dependance on a man for something he can't give.

Tue Feb 07, 10:03:00 AM  

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